30 October 2018

Tips on visiting someone with dementia : Making it easier to engage and communicate

Elderly Care

It can be daunting knowing how to behave and what to say or do when you’re visiting someone in the later stages of dementia. Fear of doing the wrong thing can make us back off and clam up - but that is only likely to leave the person with dementia feeling isolated, and you even more worried and fearful. 

Try to relax. Your presence alone can often be a source of comfort to the person you’re visiting so conversation isn’t always necessary. Silence may seem awkward to you, but many people living with dementia don’t actually notice it.

To make your visit easier, try these tips to keep things comfortable for both yourself and the person you’re visiting….

Maintain eye contact

This is important to put you both at ease. Try to position yourself at the eye level of the person you are visiting , but don’t get too close. No-one likes an invasion of personal space, and this can be particularly overwhelming for someone with dementia.

Keep your sentences short and sweet

Try to slow down a little, speak up and don’t ramble on! This will make it a lot easier for the person you’re visiting to understand what you’re saying and join in if they can.

Use the person’s name

Remember to use the person’s name, and use it often! It prompts the person to connect, and then helps them stay focused.

Stick to one idea at a time

Don’t jump around between different topics - it can be overwhelming. Stick to one topic at a time, and keep questions easy so that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no” response. Be prepared to repeat yourself several times within a single conversation, and stay calm and patient.

Don’t interrupt or try to finish their sentences for them

Jumping in and trying to finish what the person is  saying may seem like you’re helping out, but it can break their train of thought and cause confusion. Give the person as much time as they need to respond. Afterall, the last thing you want to do is inadvertently embarrass them or leave them feeling frustrated.

Remove background noise

Keeping your concentration can be hard for all of us if there are distractions going on in the background, but  it’s particularly difficult for someone with dementia. When you’re wanting to chat, it can help them enormously if you turn off the TV or radio, or take them to a quieter place if there are lots of people around. This will help them concentrate on what you are saying and reduce the likelihood of them losing their train of thought and becoming confused.

Use prompts to jog their memory

Consider anything here that might connect the person to happy times. You could look at photos albums or  reminiscence apps, listen to music, or try simple baking or gardening tasks together to name but a few.

Don’t push too hard or get upset if they don’t respond in the way you hoped. It’s not a personal slight - they simply can’t help it. Stay calm, try again another time, and take joy in the moments they do remember.

Don’t panic if there are silences

Remember that it’s perfectly OK if conversation trails off. Simply holding hands, and being there can bring enormous comfort to the person you are visiting. If talking isn’t working, listen to music or watch the TV together - you don’t have to be chatting non-stop to enjoy spending time together.

Quarry Mount is a dementia specialist care home in Swindon with a strong sense of community and a truly welcoming atmosphere. The home has been carefully adapted to meet the needs of those living with dementia so to find out more about the services we offer, please give us a call on 01793 250455 to arrange a visit.

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